Notes From The Awareness: 236

Ulterior motives are often present, even when they are our own.

Please discuss. How does this play out in life?

I’ll start us out. People tend to try to manipulate each other and situations. Usually the one trying to wield influence feels they do so for acceptable reasons. “It’s for their own good.” “Things will be easier/better/more functional this way.” “I’m just watching out for my own interests.” Nonetheless, we’re trying to impose our own will on something or someone.

In a similar way, we can manipulate ourselves. Often it isn’t conscious, but some aspect of ourselves may try to direct our thoughts and behavior, often as a protective mechanism or to fulfill a perceived emotional need. Unsolved past issues can be the driver, impelling an unconscious part of ourselves to influence our conscious beliefs and actions.

Today’s message suggests I may wish to avoid ulterior motives, whether my own, either outwardly or inwardly directed, or whether coming from someone else. When I ensure that my thoughts and behavior arise from my own conscious, healthy choices, in response to current day situations and goals, I will feel happier and freer. No one should manipulate me, not even me.

How about you? How do you avoid manipulation?