Preferring ourselves over others is a natural side effect of separation consciousness.
Please discuss. How does this play out in life?
I’ll start us out. Most of us put ourselves before others, at least some of the time. We place our own needs, to a greater or lesser degree ahead of the needs of other people. The exceptions may be for those we love—spouses or partners, parents, children, ensuring they are cared for—and our employers, prioritizing job responsibilities. Some of us struggle with making ourselves most important. We may feels it’s selfish or that we don’t deserve top billing, particularly if we have self worth issues. However, often we don’t have a problem putting self interests first.
In third dimensional existence, the prevailing mindset is separation consciousness. We believe we are separate from the divine and from the rest of creation. We perceive reality as a singular unit of awareness, interacting with other singular units. We tend, unless we are empaths, to experience existence through our own sensory input, filtered by our personal beliefs, thoughts, and emotions. Since our input is circumscribed by the perceptual lens of separation consciousness, our own needs and wants are what we receive most directly and immediately.
This isn’t to say it is wrong or inappropriate to please or take care of ourselves first. In a world where others are also inclined to be self focused, by implementing healthy self care we ensure our needs and wants are met. It’s often healthy and desirable to prioritize ourselves and to say “no” to situations we don’t want.
In dealing with conflicts of interest and differences of opinion, we will want to be aware of the role that separation consciousness plays in their genesis and unfolding. Placing ourselves mentally and emotionally in the other’s mindset and being willing to listen to their concerns and viewpoints may help us reach mutually acceptable solutions.
Today’s message reminds me to pay attention to when, why, and how I put myself first. I will certainly want to do so to support my own, healthy, sanity, and well being, provided my choices do not actively harm others. When my beliefs, interests, needs, or desires conflict with those of another, I may wish to attempt to view the scenario from a conjoined consciousness, using my own input and input from the other to create a blended viewpoint. This marrying of interests may result in an outcome that is beneficial for all.
How about you? When and why do you put yourself first?