Let it go.
We get riled up over things. Once our anger, frustration, or irritation start, it’s hard to stop it.
We have a biochemical reaction that’s fed by going over the situation again and again. The more we think about our upset, the worse it gets.
Righteous anger feels good, so we may tend to feed it. We review events and convince ourselves that we’re right or victimized and others are wrong.
Once our emotions have escalated, we can calm them down, but it may take a sustained and conscious effort. It’s far more effective to address our feelings right away.
That’s not to say we stuff our anger. It’s okay to take a moment to acknowledge we’re mad and why. But things often work out best if we don’t feed the ire and if we refrain from acting on it immediately.
Whatever action of another’s that upset us may indeed have consequences. We can certainly express the fact that we were angered. We may alter our future behavior or the nature of our relationships as a result. But doing so in the heat of the moment usually doesn’t work out well.
When we recognize the situation for what it is and our emotions around it and then let it go, we can deal with the aftermath more effectively. Getting to solutions will help everyone concerned more than a blow up.
Today’s message suggests I may benefit from using restraint in indulging my emotions. I certainly want to allow and acknowledge them, but I may not wish to marinate in them. They’re a signpost and not a destination.
Please reflect and share. What current situation would it be best for you to let go?