Pretense may only fool us.
Please reflect and share. How does this play out for you?
We all dissemble from time to time. White lies, insincere compliments, half-truths, lies of omission—we use them to avoid conflict and smooth social situations. They shield us and others from the uncomfortable truth.
The problem is that when we repeat an untruth often enough, we may begin to believe it ourselves. We may not fool others—we’ve all had the awkward experience of knowing someone is lying but not wanting to call them on it—but we may begin to convinces ourselves of the truth of our lie.
Today’s message asks me to be as honest as possible. I can avoid polite untruths making an alternate truthful statement. “I like the color of that dress with your eyes.” versus “No, that dress doesn’t make you look heavy.” If there is nothing positive to say, I can consider just saying nothing. I increase my ability to be honest with myself when I’m truthful with others.
How about you? Do you feel honesty is always the best policy?