Notes From The Awareness: 312

Bothersome things signal mental and emotional blocks.

Please discuss. How does this play out in life.

I’ll start us out. We all have pet peeves or long-running dislikes. Most of them are minor and we can laugh about these personal quirks. Then there are the periodic situations that really get under our skin. The vex us and we seem to dwell on them. Somehow we just can’t let them go.

We’re tied to these irritations by the mental and emotional hotspots within us that they aggravate. They can be repeatedly triggered by normal everyday events, causing us to react, often out of scale to the actual event. For instance, if we’re annoyed by a friend whose turn of phrase or behavior reminds us of our mother, we likely have some unresolved mommy issues.

In our example, there are several stages to freeing ourselves from the habitual irritation. 1. Noticing the repetitive emotional reaction—our annoyance. 2. Identifying the ostensible trigger—our friend’s behavior. 3. Finding the correlation—similarity to mom’s behavior. 4. Clarifying the seed issue—mom did/didn’t/always/never [fill in the blank]. 5. Doing the personal work—emotional release and forgiveness. Extra credit is earned for discussing this neutrally after the fact with our friend.

Today’s message reminds me to look within when I am regularly annoyed. It’s a sign that something inside me is ripe for healing. When I get the message and do the needed personal sorting, I’m rewarded by feeling bothered less often; happier me.

How about you? How do you handle repetitive annoyances?