Arguments only prove that we don’t understand each other.
Please discuss. How does this play out in life?
I’ll start us out. Events of 2020 have highlighted our differences of opinion. Should/shouldn’t we be wearing masks to help prevent COVID-19? Should/shouldn’t the federal government provide additional unemployment funds? Is the stock market healthier than ever or in danger of crashing? Are federal troops needed to keep civil order in large American cities or are they inflaming conflict by their presence?
Most of us have strong opinions on these and other similar topics. We also have friends or family who hold opposing viewpoints. The urgency of the issues seems heightened by the corona virus, and this tends to make expression of our thoughts and beliefs more virulent. The opinion divide increases and we have a hard time fathoming how decent, rational people can hold differing perspectives. We can’t convince each other to change our minds, and frustration may lead to arguments and estrangements.
Today’s message reminds me that I’m responsible for no opinions outside of my own. Choosing to engage in disagreements won’t alter others’ stances and may lead to further polarization and personal rifts. When I feel inclined to disagree with someone openly, I need to question my motivation. If I feel I must raise a sensitive topic, I will be better served by seeking to understand the other’s viewpoint rather than trying to change it. When I am not emotionally invested in my opinions, I can listen openly to alternative ones. Therein lies harmony. From “A Course in Miracles” scribed by Helen Schucman: “Do you prefer that you be right or happy?”
How about you? How do you deal with others who have opposing viewpoints?