Estrangement occurs when emotions between people have gotten strange. If you’re estranged from someone, consider how you might harmonize your emotions surrounding the relationship.
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We all have someone we try to avoid. For whatever reason, we just don’t seem to get along with some individual. Interactions between us are troubled, and we find it easier to simply avoid contact. Life seems more peaceful when we steer clear of him or her.
If we look back at the situation, we usually will see that communication with this person gradually became more strained, until contact felt intolerable. Our emotions around the relationship became heavy and intense, and chances are that the other person’s did too.
However difficult this relationship seems, it holds valuable clues for us. How we feel about this individual can tell us a lot about ourselves, and how and when we are stuck in separation consciousness. This unbearable person actually is our ally on the path to connection consciousness.
When we perceive through separation consciousness, we feel separate from others and from the divine, too. Others seem flawed and disappointing, possibly even dangerous. We feel victimized, disillusioned, and disappointed in relationships. Something in life seems broken, and we’re often sure that we’re broken too. Interactions just don’t click and we struggle to like ourselves or others.
Perceived through connection consciousness, life seems very different. We recognize our own inherent divinity and can see it in others as well. The divine interconnection of all creation—the sharing—is emotionally tangible. We feel nurtured, uplifted, and graced by life. Interactions seem to flow naturally, and it is easy to love ourselves and others.
Our operant beliefs and resulting thoughts and emotions, in any moment, determine whether we experience from separation or connection consciousness. That’s why those we despise are so valuable—they help us identify the beliefs that keep us stuck in separation consciousness.
When we change our beliefs, our thoughts and emotions follow along. We find it easy to think and feel in new and different ways, and our experience of life alters in fundamental ways. Willingness to explore an estrangement can be the key to a happier and more satisfying life.
Let’s spend a few moments in conscious connection with our inner divinity—our sharing within—to explore how this might work. We will start by focusing on our breath. We’ll slow down our breathing and let its rhythm become gentle and even. As we do so, we’ll picture our sharing within as a globe of golden light in the center of our chest.
Inhaling, we will see the glow in our chest become strong and brilliant. Exhaling, we will see golden light flowing out to bless our entire body and our surroundings. We’ll continue the slow and steady breathing and light visualization until we feel calm, centered, and sure—signs that we are in conscious connection with our sharing within.
We will think of someone from whom we’re estranged. Perhaps we have avoided a sibling after a heated disagreement. Perhaps we’ve shunned a coworker we feel took advantage of us. Perhaps we no longer speak with a former friend, after they did something we felt was unforgivable. The first individual who comes to mind will be perfect for our purposes.
We’ll picture the person and summon up our strong emotions about them. We will surround him or her and our feelings in a bubble of golden heart light, and we’ll ask our sharing within to help us understand how our beliefs have led to the estrangement.
Whatever we hear or feel, we will trust the message is divinely inspired and true and helpful for us. Perhaps we will be shown that our sibling mirrored our anger at life, because we believe it to be uncaring and unfair. Perhaps we will hear that our coworker illustrated our essential belief that we are unworthy. Perhaps we will understand that our friend can teach us about the destructive nature of judgmental beliefs, whether about others or about ourselves.
We’ll place our estranging belief in the bubble of golden light with our difficult emotions and the other person. We’ll thank him or her for helping us see understand where we are mired in separation consciousness, and we’ll breathe heart light into the bubble until our emotions ease and settle. As they do so, we’ll see the bubble expand and dissipate, freeing us and the other individual from the estranging pattern.
We will ask our sharing within to help us anchor a new belief, one that will help us be happier and feel more grateful and fulfilled. Perhaps we now can believe that life is gracious and full of abundance. Perhaps our new belief is that all of creation, including us and the other person, is essentially divine and inherently worthy. Perhaps we’re now willing to believe that all things and beings are divine and perfect exactly as they are—no evaluation or judgment is required.
We’ll ground our new belief in our golden heart light and breathe it out to fill us and the world around us. We don’t need to force a reversal of the estrangement. Reconciliation with the other person may occur, or it may not. The most important healing has occurred inside of us. The inner harmony created by our new belief will lead us easily to easier and happier relationships, in the time frame that is perfect for us.
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Divinely unique and beautiful reader, what new belief have you adopted? Please share…